How can a married couple stand to only have sex for pregnancy?

How could you stand to have sex, on average like 3 times within a 20-50 year marriage? That is if you only believe in having sex for children and not for pleasure.How can a married couple stand to only have sex for pregnancy?
ok, well that is a bit of a misconception.


First of all, I see that you are using 3 children as an example. You do not get pregnant on the first try. It takes about 12 tries, often more (think of the people who try to have children for years).


Also, the people who believe this, do not ';TRY'; for children as other people (using birth control) do. To them, the pleasure of sex is a gift from god, which they are given to enjoy as they want. They are not supposed to have a ';limit'; on how many children they want. Each child is given to them for a reason. If they happen to conceive, its a miracle and they are thankful for it. If they don't conceive, thats because they are not supposed to or the time isnt right to have more children, but they may keep having sex as god will reward them with a child when it is it.


Thats why Christian families usually have so many children young. they're not SUPPOSED to stop having sex because they are supposed to welcome every child in. Part of the religion is to have more children in which to serve God.


So its kind of a weird concept. But thats why you see couples like 26 years old with 7 kids and they just keep coming. They're not really allowed to chose when they have kids, they are given children and are just supposed to accept them. How can a married couple stand to only have sex for pregnancy?
Hmm, well I think it would be more than 3 times because it's not that easy to get pregnant and it doesn't always work on the first try, plus depending on how many children you want to have...





But nevermind that. Like someone else said, who does that now a days? I truly think it would be physical and emotional torture not to have any intimacy with your spouse -- which is probably why I've never heard of anyone doing this.





Of course sex is not what holds a marriage/relationship together, but it helps create such an emotional and intimate bond with your significant other like nothing else. I know other people know what I'm talking about, it's just hard to explain.





Not even the Catholic church expects abstinence in marriage - which is really saying something considering the Vatican is so anti-sex and anti-pleasure. My fiance and I recently had to take a marriage class through the Church, and they gave us a bunch of pamphlets and stuff on Natural Family Planning.





I was really surprised that the church was handing out information on how to have sex without protection/contraceptives and NOT get pregnant. I would have thought coming from them it would be more like --- ';How to survive a 20-50 year marriage by only having sex 3 times in your life time.';





So you see.... times are changing.
Some can do it because they tap into an Energy greater than this limited body that will one day perish to dust. The Kundalini that originally rises through such things as True Tantra and opens all the chakras and the mind disappearing as the soul merges in a Bliss greater than any earthly joy...well, now you see why some ascetics walk away from the world without looking back.





Most of us don't enter this world, we are too trapped by the senses and mind to meditate or transcend the Tantras to such Divine ecstasy.
This is an incredibly old fashioned way of thinking. I have spoken with many different older men and women when I was working at an adult store who were just figuring out that it was ok to have sex for pleasure and not just for reproductive purposes.
maybe they got married to keep one of them in the country or they both gay and dont want any one to know so they made a pack to get marry cover for each other and decided to have a kid one to go with the cover and they each wanted it





or hes to small to please her or she doesnet like sex
well i think that it's up to the people whom this concerns


but i dont' think that they should be only having sex for children, it's natural for people to have sex for pleasure


it all depends on the people who are in the relationship





hope this helps
I think it is sad %26amp; their relationship will suffer greatly. Sex is so important in relationships. I have been married 10 years %26amp; we have 4 kids...but we still have sex atleast 3 times a week.
umm.. thats crazy.


but hey it's there life.





i made it a goal that when i get married i'm having sex with my husband at least twice a week.



i dont see how it's posible. my wife and i have sex at least every other day, unles shes ';broker'; lol my term for on her period. but yea... dont see it...
couple have sex for both a child and for fun.





they only slow down when their lives get busy and become to tired to have sex or some one loses their libido.
me and my girlfriend (7 months) have sex alomst everyday sometimes even twice. THe only time we don't is if one of us are stuck at work
wow..i have never heard of that...at least not in these times.


i wouldnt be able to stand it...i would be satisfying myself if my husband refused
That's insane!
I couldn't stand it
i couldn't do it, no sir! trying to get preggo is just another opportunity to keep doing it
your best bet is to find a hooker she will like it more then your wife