What are the disadvantages of getting married to a person who is 11 years older than you if you are only 18?

I know it rarely works. But why?


Why is it better to get married to someone your own age?What are the disadvantages of getting married to a person who is 11 years older than you if you are only 18?
The older person in the relationship has had a chance to live life, experience a few things, and maybe even understand who they are and what they are about. At 18 most people don't have a clue as to who they are, what they want from their life, or even what kind of possibilities are out there for them.





When you enter a relationship with an older person you are really looking for a parental figure. The older person will treat you more like a novelty or a possesion than an equal party in a mature relationship. Usually a person attracted to a younger person is one that is not comfortable standing on level or equal ground with a person that can challenge them intellectually, emotionally, or financially.





Once the younger person is not so young the older one usually starts being enamored with someone else that they run into... There are going to be generational differences in tastes, opinions, and ideologies that will not lend well to an honest and equal relationship.





Lastly, a large age difference can be covered up but eventually the differing health concerns of the two can have an impact on the quality of life. For the older one it is great to have a caretaker... for the younger one it can be exhausting and emotionally devastating. Sure there are lots of these relationships out there that made it to varying stages of success or failure... My advice would be to think with your head and not just your heart, nip something in the bud before it gets serious. You want a relationship of first's for the both of you...What are the disadvantages of getting married to a person who is 11 years older than you if you are only 18?
Usually when you're eighteen, most people at that age are worried more about getting through college and finding some financial footing. Because of globalization and a far more competitive job market, more and more people nowadays are holding off on marriage because they are worried they might end up losing their job and therefore not be able to provide for their family.





Of course, you're a legal adult and can do as you please, but you should at least make sure you can provide for yourself in case the marriage doesn't work and you end up dependent on your future husband in any unhappy marriage.
Here's the thing about this: getting married to someone your own age doesn't guarantee a good marriage any more than getting married to someone older guarantees a bad marriage. Some people say that being in the same point in life is good. But what's more important is compatibility and similar desires in life.
you are 18. no offense, but you don't have a clue about life yet. it's not like on tv, honey. you can't have much in common with someone that much older and that makes even a meaningful conversation difficult. marry someone closer to your age so that the 2 of you can learn about life together.
Here's a way to put it into perspective. How would you feel about dating a guy 5 years younger than you right now? A 13 yr old? What are the diffs between him and you? Maturity, life experience, privileges (like alcohol), established with a job and a home.....
the problem with your scenario is that you are EIGHTEEN!!!!!


what the hell is the rush? why are young people so friggin eager to grow up? enjoy your youth and save all the adult bull **** for when you are actually an adult because marriage is HARD!!
maturity, life experience, education, shared points of reference regarding history and culture.


A teenager at 18 hasn't experienced much in life.
So you can gracefully age together
well at 18 im not so sure you should be getting married anyway. your still young so chill. don't hurry up so you can wait
Huge life gap


He might have issues you don't know about (date him at least 2-3 years first)


He might want to control you


You are not the person you will become in 5-10 years



My mom was 19 and my dad is 11 yrs older than her. They are still married and doing quite well!
well 11 years is a long time! but it works sometimes...idk i stick to guys that are close to my age because we grow up together