Saturday, January 23, 2010

How young is too young to get married?

My boyfriend and I are both 16 and sophomores in high school. He just proposed to me and we are planning to get married half way through senior year after he turns 18 (since Ill be 18 at the start of senior year). Is that to early?How young is too young to get married?
Just wait and see if you are still together when yall are 18...A lot can change between now and then...No one can decided what is best for you, only you can.How young is too young to get married?
Way too early. If you look at statistics regarding young marriage, failure is highly likely. It's hard to have foresight when you're young and in the throes of young love because that overrides rational thought. You have a lot of life to experience and it's going to change you. 16 year old me is pretty different from 25 year old me. Post high school life, especially college, is going to change you, especially having a larger pool of guys to choose from, many of whom probably are more compatible with you and share more in common than just going to the same school. After you graduate high school, keep tabs on couples. Most if not all of them will break up within a year. Relationships at 16 more or less aren't built to last. They're meant to teach you about how relationships work. Not to mention getting married is more work than being committed and dating. You don't want to be a 19 year old divorce and have to explain that to new guys. You really shouldn't think about marriage until your mid twenties at earliest. Yes sometimes it works, but that's more the exception than the rule.
i think that is too young to get married as well.


as a previous poster said, you will get married and still be living with your parents..


marriage should be a big deal, a huge step in life and i think that you should get married once your spouse is actually about to support you.


i am 17 and my boyfriend is 21.. he gave me a ring but not an engagement ring.. why? because i am 17 and i still do not know what i want in life in regards to occupation etc, let alone MARRIAGE.


give it time, get a post secondary education so you can earn better money to support yourselves, then consider it.


as mature as you may be, if you are financially unstable, a marriage will be very hard for you.


good luck.
I would suggest waiting until you're a little older....not b/c I don't think it could work but just to allow yourselves to grow a little. I got married when I was 24 and in the last year, we've both grown a lot and changed. If I could do it all over again, I'd probably wait until I was about 26 or 30 b/c we'd be a little more in tune with who we are as individuals. But now it's like we're still finding ourselves and each other so it's a little difficult.





Nonetheless, at the end of the day you have to do what you feel is best for you. It's your life so as long as you're happy, those around you should be happy too.





Best wishes!
I would say yes 18 is too young to get married. You both need to think about how your going to handle payments for a car(s), House, Insurance, Food Shopping, Utilities, and all that. The ez answer would be well get a job. But think about this with no college degree can you really live on minimal wage? I think the best idea is to wait go graduate from High School then go to college or a trade school then get a job. Also you might want to think about getting a savings account if you don't have one already.
Personally I think it's too young. At that age you are just beginning to figure yourself out... I am 22 and I'm growing and changing as a person on a daily basis it seems. The important thing is that in order for this to work, the two of you will need to grow together, not grow apart. Your relationship will need some extra nurturing. It's possible, but I don't think the success rate for young marriage is exceptionally high. Best of luck though! :)
what exactly are you going to do after that? be married and in hs living with your parents? grow up you are way too young to get married neither of you will have an education or a way to support yourselves. thats how you know youre too young. you may think you can make it on your own but you have no idea how impossile it is to live off of minimum wage which is what someone with only a hs education makes.
Yes.You need your time to date around and get to know yourself and learn how to be in a relationship.The younger you are when you get married,you have a greater chance of divorce because you'll always wonder what it would have been like to be with other people.If you really love each other,just wait about 3-4 years and decide then if you still want to marry.I'm guessing you guys will get out in the world and will find plenty of other people you're interested in.
Yes, I think that is unwise. People evolve a lot from 16 to 25, I would not recommend getting married before you are at least 23.





If you guys are still together then, then your marriage would be very promising and you should have a great wedding then.





But if you grow apart by then, you've saved yourself a lot of pain and trouble by waiting and not getting married.
you really need to finish school first and both of you should get jobs,so you can get a place of your own.then you can see what life is going to be about.unless both of you are rich or you are going to free load on your parents then this is the way to go.also this will give you time to mature and think more about what you are doing.good luck..Bill
I personally feel a young marriage it tough, you should be at least 18, but what are the reasons for rushing into things, you have your entire lives a head of you.





I would suggest waiting until you are both done school, including college if that is the plan.
you should wait what you want now will change in a few years. what is the hurry. do something with your life like go to college. join the army. be single a while before you get married. i know this because i was married at 17. had my 1st kid be the time i was 18. after 20 of marriage and 3 kids later got divorced. wait wait wait. the man i married to for 20 and the man i married to now are two toatally different men.
I don't konw the exact percent but a VERY small percentage of HS relationships last. Honestly, your are going to change SO much from like 20-24 and by the end of that you may not want anything to do with your now husband. honestly I'd wait for a while and let yourself finish learning who you are before you tie yourself down.
My boyfriend and i are feeling the same way, but we're gunne get proposed when were 18, then get married when were like 26. We'll still be together, but itll be easier financially. You dont wanna rush things so that the other things in life are missed. Plus, being engaged is fun :)
I'm 20 and getting a divorce so I would wait you both will change so much more than you realize when you do go to college. I would say wait and leave your options open. and I would definitly hold off on children because that is hard to deal with also.
depends hw long you have been together... who knows what happens in the future ... if it is still going well at 18 then why not ? buttt saying that.. alot of teen marriages do end in divorce due to that fact that they have not spent the time to get to know each other... x
you should wait a lot longer than that-you both are so young %26amp; haven't had time to experience time for yourself %26amp; date. You should wait at least five more years before you get married-just have a long engagement.
Married at 18, divorced with 2-5 kids by age 28; how does that sound to you? Because it's where your headed!


Your both kids, wait until you both graduate college then go from there
Depends on your maturity Level I got married when I turned 17 and im 22 right now and still married
too young that you didn't enjoy your teenage life to face a big responsibility. too young big deal
By asking this question I think you are probably still too young.
You will be too young for ten more years.
That's much too young for both of you. Wait a few years.
way too young right now. wait until you are both legal and then see you feel. alot can happen in that span of time.
Depends on your level on being an adult. Dont rush it if you have doubts.
That's a little young, but I think it sounds very romantic.

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