I'm a landed immigrant here in Canada, me and my fiance who is right now residing in Philippines is planning to get married, we been together for 4 years. What are the things or documents we need to complete in the Philippines and here in Canada. We are 23 years old do we need parent consent? And also do i need to be physically there to get marriage license. Please help me to have a list of documents we need to complete.What are the things I need and consider before getting married in the Philippines?
Are you a permanent resident or citizen of Canada?
Maybe this will help:
http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/immigrate/s鈥?/a>What are the things I need and consider before getting married in the Philippines?
The Weather. Consider the season you intend on being there.
well you need to get your head examined so make an appt. with your doctor.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
How will getting married affect financial aid?
My fiance is in school and gets financial aid. I make 55k a year w/ 2 kids. Would she continue to recieve financial aid or would I be expected to contribute to her education?How will getting married affect financial aid?
First of all, marital status cannot be changed on a FAFSA once it is filed. So, if she is currently receiving aid under the 07-08 FAFSA and you get married now, it will not effect her current aid.
I've bookmarked this site...
http://www.TopFinancialAid.info/
All the best to you.How will getting married affect financial aid?
Your income would affect her financial aid.
Even if you get married after she signs the FAFSA, she is expected to update her financial situation at the beginning of the school year (%26amp; with any major changes) with the school's financial aid office.
Take a look at a FAFSA, you'll see what they take into consideration. Any child support you pay out will be deducted from your income.
There are students who have parent that do not pay anything towards their education. Their parent's income still needs to be listed on the FAFSA. The financial aid office determines how much the parent(s) should contribute towards their child's education. In the same manner, they will determine how much of your income should be contributed towards your wife's education.
I got married while attending school. I know this from first hand experience.
All updates are done at the school's (college, university, etc) financial aid office not by turning in another/updated FAFSA!
Marital status is a required question to answer on the FAFSA. The marital status is determined as of the day you sign the FAFSA. So, if she completes the FAFSA now, she would not indicate she is married and would only need to use her own finanical information. Does she have any kids of her own? Does she live with you? The FAFSA will also ask for the number of people in the household. But, she should only include those in the houshold that she provides more than half of their financial support.
I hope this helps!
First of all, marital status cannot be changed on a FAFSA once it is filed. So, if she is currently receiving aid under the 07-08 FAFSA and you get married now, it will not effect her current aid.
I've bookmarked this site...
http://www.TopFinancialAid.info/
All the best to you.How will getting married affect financial aid?
Your income would affect her financial aid.
Even if you get married after she signs the FAFSA, she is expected to update her financial situation at the beginning of the school year (%26amp; with any major changes) with the school's financial aid office.
Take a look at a FAFSA, you'll see what they take into consideration. Any child support you pay out will be deducted from your income.
There are students who have parent that do not pay anything towards their education. Their parent's income still needs to be listed on the FAFSA. The financial aid office determines how much the parent(s) should contribute towards their child's education. In the same manner, they will determine how much of your income should be contributed towards your wife's education.
I got married while attending school. I know this from first hand experience.
All updates are done at the school's (college, university, etc) financial aid office not by turning in another/updated FAFSA!
Marital status is a required question to answer on the FAFSA. The marital status is determined as of the day you sign the FAFSA. So, if she completes the FAFSA now, she would not indicate she is married and would only need to use her own finanical information. Does she have any kids of her own? Does she live with you? The FAFSA will also ask for the number of people in the household. But, she should only include those in the houshold that she provides more than half of their financial support.
I hope this helps!
How do you get your sims to marry/ get married in sims 3?
Do I have to buy anything, like the arch in sims 2?How do you get your sims to marry/ get married in sims 3?
Well you have to be living with ur bf/gf for 60 days (Annoying :@)
Then u just click romantic , the propose marriage
Then u can either have wedding party (like on sims2) or a ''private wedding'' were its just the bride nd groom :D
Hope This Helps
Jess xxHow do you get your sims to marry/ get married in sims 3?
Once their relationship is high, propose to be bf and gf. Once they say yes make sure their relationship is as high as it gets. Then keep doing romantic interactions until it says ';Boy Friend or Girl Friend's name'; thinks ';Your Sim's Name'; is being extremely irrisistable. Then the propose marrige social will come up under the romantic socials. If they get married, you get to choose house to take over with the new couple, yours, or theirs.
its simple- once you guys have reached ';boyfriend and girlfriend'; status, be the guy, click on the girl you want to propose to and choose ';special.'; then click propose and let it work. hope this helps :)
you didnt even have 2 buy the arch in the Sims 2.
I just have them date for awhile until they are close enough to get engaged then married. You don't need anything at all.
Your relationship has to be high enough.
And in the Sims 2 you didnt have to buy the arch unless you wanted a fancy party.
keep improving there relationship until you get the option
if you want to start them of married on the family tree screen drag drop and/or select spouseface blush
Well you have to be living with ur bf/gf for 60 days (Annoying :@)
Then u just click romantic , the propose marriage
Then u can either have wedding party (like on sims2) or a ''private wedding'' were its just the bride nd groom :D
Hope This Helps
Jess xxHow do you get your sims to marry/ get married in sims 3?
Once their relationship is high, propose to be bf and gf. Once they say yes make sure their relationship is as high as it gets. Then keep doing romantic interactions until it says ';Boy Friend or Girl Friend's name'; thinks ';Your Sim's Name'; is being extremely irrisistable. Then the propose marrige social will come up under the romantic socials. If they get married, you get to choose house to take over with the new couple, yours, or theirs.
its simple- once you guys have reached ';boyfriend and girlfriend'; status, be the guy, click on the girl you want to propose to and choose ';special.'; then click propose and let it work. hope this helps :)
you didnt even have 2 buy the arch in the Sims 2.
I just have them date for awhile until they are close enough to get engaged then married. You don't need anything at all.
Your relationship has to be high enough.
And in the Sims 2 you didnt have to buy the arch unless you wanted a fancy party.
keep improving there relationship until you get the option
if you want to start them of married on the family tree screen drag drop and/or select spouse
What is the definition of an emotional affair with a married person?
I think it is mainly defined as to a person who confides secrets to the other person, talks bad about his/her spouse and talks about his/her troubles, whether it be in his/her marriage or troubles in general. How would you definite an emotional affair? These traits? Or, other ones too? What is the definition of an emotional affair with a married person?
What some people call an emotional affair, other people call friendship. I have never thought that it was ok to forbid a spouse from having a friend of the opposite sex.
However, if your spouse relates to an individual of the opposite sex in a way that he/she knows is against your permission, that is an affair. Emotional or otherwise. What is the definition of an emotional affair with a married person?
I saw this posted 2days ago %26amp; the answers were all of the above. Emotional affairs usually lead to sexual affairs b/c that's the next step after the 2people have their emotions all involved. It may not be right but, sometimes spouses need people to talk to that aren't in the union.
The act of seeking sexual comfort with the intention of acting on it physically or emotionally with anyone other than your partner .
i think its having all the feelings but not acting upon them
No, an emotional affair is when a married person is having a sexual relationship with another person, it can be with anyone woman or man, married or not, and at the same time has feelings for this person. It can be love, affection, maybe filling an emotional void. It goes beyond a strictly sexual relationship.
What some people call an emotional affair, other people call friendship. I have never thought that it was ok to forbid a spouse from having a friend of the opposite sex.
However, if your spouse relates to an individual of the opposite sex in a way that he/she knows is against your permission, that is an affair. Emotional or otherwise. What is the definition of an emotional affair with a married person?
I saw this posted 2days ago %26amp; the answers were all of the above. Emotional affairs usually lead to sexual affairs b/c that's the next step after the 2people have their emotions all involved. It may not be right but, sometimes spouses need people to talk to that aren't in the union.
The act of seeking sexual comfort with the intention of acting on it physically or emotionally with anyone other than your partner .
i think its having all the feelings but not acting upon them
No, an emotional affair is when a married person is having a sexual relationship with another person, it can be with anyone woman or man, married or not, and at the same time has feelings for this person. It can be love, affection, maybe filling an emotional void. It goes beyond a strictly sexual relationship.
How much more money will I receive if I am married in the military?
Hey everyone. I have been dating my girlfriend for three years and I am looking to go into the military. I have been discussing marriage with her because then she can live on base with me. How much money will I receive if I am active military and I am married? Information about anything associated with this topic will be awsome. Thank you everyone.How much more money will I receive if I am married in the military?
Not that much. The only differences are
1) You qualify for military housing or BAH w/dependents instead of living in barracks. The rate is slightly higher.
2) When deployed or in training for longer than 30 days you get Family Separation of $250.
3) If you stationed OCONUS then the COLA (Cost of Living Allowance) will be higher becuase again you aren't living in barracks and there is more than you. It is based on time in, rate/rank, # of dependents and if you live in barracks or not. For CONUS COLA that is a set amount for your rate/rank and it doesn't matter if you have dependents or not. Most major bases in the CONUS don't qualify for it. It is more for places where there isnt as much base facilities like commissary, exchange, etc....
4) Your Federal Income Tax deductions can drop because you are married and filing jointly.
5) BAS is food allowance and is for the AD member only! It is $294 for enlisted. It doesn't matter if you are married or not. If you are single you are eating in the mess so it is deducted from your pay each month. If you are married then it may not be deducted but it can depend on the branch and where you are. For the Navy the only time it isn't deducted is if you are on Shore duty or the ship's galley isn't operational. Otherwise all but $40 is taken out each month whether you eat there or not.
There is no other extra money or Spouse allowance or anything else for being married. So if you live in military housing in the 48 states and are home every night there is nothing more in your pay but the extra money from taxes.How much more money will I receive if I am married in the military?
In the Air Force, your rank and time in service (basic pay) will not be affected by being married. However, you can receive BAQ (basic allowance for quarters) or base housing (if it is available) when you are married. In addition, you will receive BAS (can't remember what it stands for???) but it is basic allowance to food. Also, in some areas, you might receive a cost of living allowance, but that is usually only given in places where the cost of living is over-inflated. Hope this helps a little, and good luck for the future!
you get either on post housing free then your food allowance of like 250 per month. If you live off post you get housing allowance based on rank and area. You can look it up on the net.
Check this out....this should help ;-)
http://www.dod.mil/cgi-bin/rmc.pl
Hey slow down and take a look at these options.
your pay depends on your rank when you enter active duty. And also if you are married or single at the time of entry.
Are you enlisting with any rank such as PFC, or comming in as an officer, or starting at the bottom as a private or airman depending on which service you join.
All of that plays a factor in what your pay will start out as. below is the site where you can go and see the military pay scale for fical year 08.
Now lets address the housing issue.
Lets say you make it thru all the initial training and your headed to your first duty station. As a married soldier.
depending on where you are station if your lucky to get stateside you can go to base housing to see how long it will take you to acquire government quarters if they have any available. If not you can live off base, and the cost of living is not to high where you are station.
again depending on which branch of the service you join. If you happen to be sent overseas like Germany, Korea, Japan and other areas like that. some branches of the service require you to go for at least 4 years in order to take your family with you. Not all tours overseas allow your family to join you. So keep that in mind, these are questions you have to ask. (dont be afraid to)
So becareful of what you put on your dream sheet (you will learn about the dream sheet in basic)
Also keep in mind the cost living overseas, and stateside, the dollar is not strong overseas, and yes you do get other money from the government like BAS, separate rations, and others along with your regular pay.
Your recruiter will not have all the answers, but at least if you can get the base you want to be station at listed in your contract, they have to honor that. So bargain for what you want.
Good luck to you.
SSgt in Iraq. (email if you have any questions bajangrl005@yahoo
Not that much. The only differences are
1) You qualify for military housing or BAH w/dependents instead of living in barracks. The rate is slightly higher.
2) When deployed or in training for longer than 30 days you get Family Separation of $250.
3) If you stationed OCONUS then the COLA (Cost of Living Allowance) will be higher becuase again you aren't living in barracks and there is more than you. It is based on time in, rate/rank, # of dependents and if you live in barracks or not. For CONUS COLA that is a set amount for your rate/rank and it doesn't matter if you have dependents or not. Most major bases in the CONUS don't qualify for it. It is more for places where there isnt as much base facilities like commissary, exchange, etc....
4) Your Federal Income Tax deductions can drop because you are married and filing jointly.
5) BAS is food allowance and is for the AD member only! It is $294 for enlisted. It doesn't matter if you are married or not. If you are single you are eating in the mess so it is deducted from your pay each month. If you are married then it may not be deducted but it can depend on the branch and where you are. For the Navy the only time it isn't deducted is if you are on Shore duty or the ship's galley isn't operational. Otherwise all but $40 is taken out each month whether you eat there or not.
There is no other extra money or Spouse allowance or anything else for being married. So if you live in military housing in the 48 states and are home every night there is nothing more in your pay but the extra money from taxes.How much more money will I receive if I am married in the military?
In the Air Force, your rank and time in service (basic pay) will not be affected by being married. However, you can receive BAQ (basic allowance for quarters) or base housing (if it is available) when you are married. In addition, you will receive BAS (can't remember what it stands for???) but it is basic allowance to food. Also, in some areas, you might receive a cost of living allowance, but that is usually only given in places where the cost of living is over-inflated. Hope this helps a little, and good luck for the future!
you get either on post housing free then your food allowance of like 250 per month. If you live off post you get housing allowance based on rank and area. You can look it up on the net.
Check this out....this should help ;-)
http://www.dod.mil/cgi-bin/rmc.pl
Hey slow down and take a look at these options.
your pay depends on your rank when you enter active duty. And also if you are married or single at the time of entry.
Are you enlisting with any rank such as PFC, or comming in as an officer, or starting at the bottom as a private or airman depending on which service you join.
All of that plays a factor in what your pay will start out as. below is the site where you can go and see the military pay scale for fical year 08.
Now lets address the housing issue.
Lets say you make it thru all the initial training and your headed to your first duty station. As a married soldier.
depending on where you are station if your lucky to get stateside you can go to base housing to see how long it will take you to acquire government quarters if they have any available. If not you can live off base, and the cost of living is not to high where you are station.
again depending on which branch of the service you join. If you happen to be sent overseas like Germany, Korea, Japan and other areas like that. some branches of the service require you to go for at least 4 years in order to take your family with you. Not all tours overseas allow your family to join you. So keep that in mind, these are questions you have to ask. (dont be afraid to)
So becareful of what you put on your dream sheet (you will learn about the dream sheet in basic)
Also keep in mind the cost living overseas, and stateside, the dollar is not strong overseas, and yes you do get other money from the government like BAS, separate rations, and others along with your regular pay.
Your recruiter will not have all the answers, but at least if you can get the base you want to be station at listed in your contract, they have to honor that. So bargain for what you want.
Good luck to you.
SSgt in Iraq. (email if you have any questions bajangrl005@yahoo
How often do Married couples go on dates when they have a baby at home?
My husband and I have a six month old at home and haven't been on a date since. And I was wondering how often do married couples go out and leave their little ones at home? What is the best way to trust a babysitter when family isn't an option? Our best friends have three small kids and they go out three times every week and leave them with a relative is that wrong? Thanks!How often do Married couples go on dates when they have a baby at home?
WOW. Three times a week, I am envious! If I did that the house would look like a disaster area! My husband and I have 7 kids at home, so we rarely go out. I agree that having some one on one time without the kids is important, that is why we try to go out on a date once or twice every few weeks. All the younger kids are in bed by 9, so when we go out we leave our 16 year old in charge. She just keeps an ear out for one if they wake up! Now I would never ask my family to watch my kids 3 days a week. Here lately my mom has been taking the 4 month old twins one night a week, but that is only because she wants too! I am just lucky that we never have to ask family to watch the kiddos (they always offer)! I suggest you go onto either sittercity, or care.com and search for a sitter that has a background check and reviews in your area! It is totally worth it, and by doing that we have found several great sitters that we trust! Best of Luck!
P.S. To answer the actual question we go on about 18 (3 hour) dates a year!How often do Married couples go on dates when they have a baby at home?
My husband and I have a 12 month old and we don't ever get to go out. We have been on 2 or 3 dates since our son was born. My parents live out of town and his parents are raising their other grandchild, so we don't really have anyone we trust to watch the baby.
I think most couples go out at least once a week and leave the babies with relatives or friends, but you and I don't have that option. The few times that we went out we asked his parents or his sister to watch the baby. Even though we deserve alone time, I always feel bad about leaving my baby with them. Your friends should try to spend more time with their children. 3 times a week is a lot to go out when you have 3 small kids.
Maybe you could ask your best friends for a trade off? They take your baby for an afternoon/evening and then you take their kids another day! Saves money for sure, and they're probably the only people you can trust since you're out of state from your own family.
My husband is in the military and we're away from all of our family right now, however we babysat for a friend he met in his class and she said she'd be more than happy to take our little one for the evening. But I'm just not ready for her to be babysat yet, she's only almost 8 weeks old though =]
Try asking them and just explain you need hubby time to go on a date but they're the only ones you can trust (that is if you do lol), I'm sure they'll understand since they're parents too!
We don't!
Our dates consist of popping in a movie after our son has gone to bed. Of course, I think we'd go out more if I trusted more people around me with Noah. All our family lives out of state so it would be different if they were around.
I think three times every week is a bit much(for me anyway!) but you still need to get out every once in awhile if need be. There is nothing wrong with leaving your daughter with a family member or friend on an Friday night and going out on a date with your husband. Like the above poster mentioned, you still need to keep that relationship going.
We go lots of places...and we take our daughter with us. We've taken her along since she was born, practically. Granted, she's a ';good'; baby, very easy to take places for the most part.
As far as getting out of the house together, child-less, for a date just between the two of us - that hasn't happened in the nearly 15 months we've been parents.
I could never ask my family to watch our daughter three times a week so that my husband and I could go out! They already help out enough to accommodate our work schedules. Even before we were married, we didn't go on that many dates every week.
No it's not wrong. You need to stay connected with your husband. Get a babysitter who is experience with younger siblings or get someone to watch them for just like 2 hours a week, and eventually you can trust them to longer and longer amounts of time.
You should find time to do those things because you will just become two overwhelmed roomates after a while. My mother has my 2 boys on friday and sometimes saturday nights. You have to just find a recommended baby sitter that you can trust. It will be worth it.
hahaha yeah right! Go out, that's a dream of mine and it will stay that way. I wish I could go out with my hubby on a date night!
LOL i wish me and my hubby could break away but i have month old twin boys and we are too protective to leave them with a baby sitter.
we try once every pay check soo like 2ce a month
i'm sure you realitives WOULD LOVE TO SEE THE BABY. if they don't mind WHY NOT
Did you both eat the wedding cake? There in lays the problem.
No, it's not wrong. I believe if that's what it takes to keep a marriage in-tact, then so be it. Children need their parents to have a good marriage. It keeps the family thriving! Now, it would be a different story if they went out more than that for all hours of the night and had nothing to do with their kids...but I doubt that is what's going on. =P
If you want a babysitter to go out maybe once a week, then you could find someone you know that is close to you and your husband...whoever that may be. A friend, coworker, neighbor. They would know your baby well and you would know them!
My husband and I go out together once, sometimes twice a week. We like to stay up late together most nights and just talk. That's my favorite ';date';. =D
Good luck!
WOW. Three times a week, I am envious! If I did that the house would look like a disaster area! My husband and I have 7 kids at home, so we rarely go out. I agree that having some one on one time without the kids is important, that is why we try to go out on a date once or twice every few weeks. All the younger kids are in bed by 9, so when we go out we leave our 16 year old in charge. She just keeps an ear out for one if they wake up! Now I would never ask my family to watch my kids 3 days a week. Here lately my mom has been taking the 4 month old twins one night a week, but that is only because she wants too! I am just lucky that we never have to ask family to watch the kiddos (they always offer)! I suggest you go onto either sittercity, or care.com and search for a sitter that has a background check and reviews in your area! It is totally worth it, and by doing that we have found several great sitters that we trust! Best of Luck!
P.S. To answer the actual question we go on about 18 (3 hour) dates a year!How often do Married couples go on dates when they have a baby at home?
My husband and I have a 12 month old and we don't ever get to go out. We have been on 2 or 3 dates since our son was born. My parents live out of town and his parents are raising their other grandchild, so we don't really have anyone we trust to watch the baby.
I think most couples go out at least once a week and leave the babies with relatives or friends, but you and I don't have that option. The few times that we went out we asked his parents or his sister to watch the baby. Even though we deserve alone time, I always feel bad about leaving my baby with them. Your friends should try to spend more time with their children. 3 times a week is a lot to go out when you have 3 small kids.
Maybe you could ask your best friends for a trade off? They take your baby for an afternoon/evening and then you take their kids another day! Saves money for sure, and they're probably the only people you can trust since you're out of state from your own family.
My husband is in the military and we're away from all of our family right now, however we babysat for a friend he met in his class and she said she'd be more than happy to take our little one for the evening. But I'm just not ready for her to be babysat yet, she's only almost 8 weeks old though =]
Try asking them and just explain you need hubby time to go on a date but they're the only ones you can trust (that is if you do lol), I'm sure they'll understand since they're parents too!
We don't!
Our dates consist of popping in a movie after our son has gone to bed. Of course, I think we'd go out more if I trusted more people around me with Noah. All our family lives out of state so it would be different if they were around.
I think three times every week is a bit much(for me anyway!) but you still need to get out every once in awhile if need be. There is nothing wrong with leaving your daughter with a family member or friend on an Friday night and going out on a date with your husband. Like the above poster mentioned, you still need to keep that relationship going.
We go lots of places...and we take our daughter with us. We've taken her along since she was born, practically. Granted, she's a ';good'; baby, very easy to take places for the most part.
As far as getting out of the house together, child-less, for a date just between the two of us - that hasn't happened in the nearly 15 months we've been parents.
I could never ask my family to watch our daughter three times a week so that my husband and I could go out! They already help out enough to accommodate our work schedules. Even before we were married, we didn't go on that many dates every week.
No it's not wrong. You need to stay connected with your husband. Get a babysitter who is experience with younger siblings or get someone to watch them for just like 2 hours a week, and eventually you can trust them to longer and longer amounts of time.
You should find time to do those things because you will just become two overwhelmed roomates after a while. My mother has my 2 boys on friday and sometimes saturday nights. You have to just find a recommended baby sitter that you can trust. It will be worth it.
hahaha yeah right! Go out, that's a dream of mine and it will stay that way. I wish I could go out with my hubby on a date night!
LOL i wish me and my hubby could break away but i have month old twin boys and we are too protective to leave them with a baby sitter.
we try once every pay check soo like 2ce a month
i'm sure you realitives WOULD LOVE TO SEE THE BABY. if they don't mind WHY NOT
Did you both eat the wedding cake? There in lays the problem.
No, it's not wrong. I believe if that's what it takes to keep a marriage in-tact, then so be it. Children need their parents to have a good marriage. It keeps the family thriving! Now, it would be a different story if they went out more than that for all hours of the night and had nothing to do with their kids...but I doubt that is what's going on. =P
If you want a babysitter to go out maybe once a week, then you could find someone you know that is close to you and your husband...whoever that may be. A friend, coworker, neighbor. They would know your baby well and you would know them!
My husband and I go out together once, sometimes twice a week. We like to stay up late together most nights and just talk. That's my favorite ';date';. =D
Good luck!
How often do Married couples go on dates when they have a baby at home?
My husband and I have a six month old at home and haven't been on a date since. And I was wondering how often do married couples go out and leave their little ones at home? What is the best way to trust a babysitter when family isn't an option? Our best friends have three small kids and they go out three times every week and leave them with a relative is that wrong? Thanks!How often do Married couples go on dates when they have a baby at home?
WOW. Three times a week, I am envious! If I did that the house would look like a disaster area! My husband and I have 7 kids at home, so we rarely go out. I agree that having some one on one time without the kids is important, that is why we try to go out on a date once or twice every few weeks. All the younger kids are in bed by 9, so when we go out we leave our 16 year old in charge. She just keeps an ear out for one if they wake up! Now I would never ask my family to watch my kids 3 days a week. Here lately my mom has been taking the 4 month old twins one night a week, but that is only because she wants too! I am just lucky that we never have to ask family to watch the kiddos (they always offer)! I suggest you go onto either sittercity, or care.com and search for a sitter that has a background check and reviews in your area! It is totally worth it, and by doing that we have found several great sitters that we trust! Best of Luck!
P.S. To answer the actual question we go on about 18 (3 hour) dates a year!How often do Married couples go on dates when they have a baby at home?
My husband and I have a 12 month old and we don't ever get to go out. We have been on 2 or 3 dates since our son was born. My parents live out of town and his parents are raising their other grandchild, so we don't really have anyone we trust to watch the baby.
I think most couples go out at least once a week and leave the babies with relatives or friends, but you and I don't have that option. The few times that we went out we asked his parents or his sister to watch the baby. Even though we deserve alone time, I always feel bad about leaving my baby with them. Your friends should try to spend more time with their children. 3 times a week is a lot to go out when you have 3 small kids.
Maybe you could ask your best friends for a trade off? They take your baby for an afternoon/evening and then you take their kids another day! Saves money for sure, and they're probably the only people you can trust since you're out of state from your own family.
My husband is in the military and we're away from all of our family right now, however we babysat for a friend he met in his class and she said she'd be more than happy to take our little one for the evening. But I'm just not ready for her to be babysat yet, she's only almost 8 weeks old though =]
Try asking them and just explain you need hubby time to go on a date but they're the only ones you can trust (that is if you do lol), I'm sure they'll understand since they're parents too!
We don't!
Our dates consist of popping in a movie after our son has gone to bed. Of course, I think we'd go out more if I trusted more people around me with Noah. All our family lives out of state so it would be different if they were around.
I think three times every week is a bit much(for me anyway!) but you still need to get out every once in awhile if need be. There is nothing wrong with leaving your daughter with a family member or friend on an Friday night and going out on a date with your husband. Like the above poster mentioned, you still need to keep that relationship going.
We go lots of places...and we take our daughter with us. We've taken her along since she was born, practically. Granted, she's a ';good'; baby, very easy to take places for the most part.
As far as getting out of the house together, child-less, for a date just between the two of us - that hasn't happened in the nearly 15 months we've been parents.
I could never ask my family to watch our daughter three times a week so that my husband and I could go out! They already help out enough to accommodate our work schedules. Even before we were married, we didn't go on that many dates every week.
No it's not wrong. You need to stay connected with your husband. Get a babysitter who is experience with younger siblings or get someone to watch them for just like 2 hours a week, and eventually you can trust them to longer and longer amounts of time.
You should find time to do those things because you will just become two overwhelmed roomates after a while. My mother has my 2 boys on friday and sometimes saturday nights. You have to just find a recommended baby sitter that you can trust. It will be worth it.
hahaha yeah right! Go out, that's a dream of mine and it will stay that way. I wish I could go out with my hubby on a date night!
LOL i wish me and my hubby could break away but i have month old twin boys and we are too protective to leave them with a baby sitter.
we try once every pay check soo like 2ce a month
i'm sure you realitives WOULD LOVE TO SEE THE BABY. if they don't mind WHY NOT
Did you both eat the wedding cake? There in lays the problem.
No, it's not wrong. I believe if that's what it takes to keep a marriage in-tact, then so be it. Children need their parents to have a good marriage. It keeps the family thriving! Now, it would be a different story if they went out more than that for all hours of the night and had nothing to do with their kids...but I doubt that is what's going on. =P
If you want a babysitter to go out maybe once a week, then you could find someone you know that is close to you and your husband...whoever that may be. A friend, coworker, neighbor. They would know your baby well and you would know them!
My husband and I go out together once, sometimes twice a week. We like to stay up late together most nights and just talk. That's my favorite ';date';. =D
Good luck!
WOW. Three times a week, I am envious! If I did that the house would look like a disaster area! My husband and I have 7 kids at home, so we rarely go out. I agree that having some one on one time without the kids is important, that is why we try to go out on a date once or twice every few weeks. All the younger kids are in bed by 9, so when we go out we leave our 16 year old in charge. She just keeps an ear out for one if they wake up! Now I would never ask my family to watch my kids 3 days a week. Here lately my mom has been taking the 4 month old twins one night a week, but that is only because she wants too! I am just lucky that we never have to ask family to watch the kiddos (they always offer)! I suggest you go onto either sittercity, or care.com and search for a sitter that has a background check and reviews in your area! It is totally worth it, and by doing that we have found several great sitters that we trust! Best of Luck!
P.S. To answer the actual question we go on about 18 (3 hour) dates a year!How often do Married couples go on dates when they have a baby at home?
My husband and I have a 12 month old and we don't ever get to go out. We have been on 2 or 3 dates since our son was born. My parents live out of town and his parents are raising their other grandchild, so we don't really have anyone we trust to watch the baby.
I think most couples go out at least once a week and leave the babies with relatives or friends, but you and I don't have that option. The few times that we went out we asked his parents or his sister to watch the baby. Even though we deserve alone time, I always feel bad about leaving my baby with them. Your friends should try to spend more time with their children. 3 times a week is a lot to go out when you have 3 small kids.
Maybe you could ask your best friends for a trade off? They take your baby for an afternoon/evening and then you take their kids another day! Saves money for sure, and they're probably the only people you can trust since you're out of state from your own family.
My husband is in the military and we're away from all of our family right now, however we babysat for a friend he met in his class and she said she'd be more than happy to take our little one for the evening. But I'm just not ready for her to be babysat yet, she's only almost 8 weeks old though =]
Try asking them and just explain you need hubby time to go on a date but they're the only ones you can trust (that is if you do lol), I'm sure they'll understand since they're parents too!
We don't!
Our dates consist of popping in a movie after our son has gone to bed. Of course, I think we'd go out more if I trusted more people around me with Noah. All our family lives out of state so it would be different if they were around.
I think three times every week is a bit much(for me anyway!) but you still need to get out every once in awhile if need be. There is nothing wrong with leaving your daughter with a family member or friend on an Friday night and going out on a date with your husband. Like the above poster mentioned, you still need to keep that relationship going.
We go lots of places...and we take our daughter with us. We've taken her along since she was born, practically. Granted, she's a ';good'; baby, very easy to take places for the most part.
As far as getting out of the house together, child-less, for a date just between the two of us - that hasn't happened in the nearly 15 months we've been parents.
I could never ask my family to watch our daughter three times a week so that my husband and I could go out! They already help out enough to accommodate our work schedules. Even before we were married, we didn't go on that many dates every week.
No it's not wrong. You need to stay connected with your husband. Get a babysitter who is experience with younger siblings or get someone to watch them for just like 2 hours a week, and eventually you can trust them to longer and longer amounts of time.
You should find time to do those things because you will just become two overwhelmed roomates after a while. My mother has my 2 boys on friday and sometimes saturday nights. You have to just find a recommended baby sitter that you can trust. It will be worth it.
hahaha yeah right! Go out, that's a dream of mine and it will stay that way. I wish I could go out with my hubby on a date night!
LOL i wish me and my hubby could break away but i have month old twin boys and we are too protective to leave them with a baby sitter.
we try once every pay check soo like 2ce a month
i'm sure you realitives WOULD LOVE TO SEE THE BABY. if they don't mind WHY NOT
Did you both eat the wedding cake? There in lays the problem.
No, it's not wrong. I believe if that's what it takes to keep a marriage in-tact, then so be it. Children need their parents to have a good marriage. It keeps the family thriving! Now, it would be a different story if they went out more than that for all hours of the night and had nothing to do with their kids...but I doubt that is what's going on. =P
If you want a babysitter to go out maybe once a week, then you could find someone you know that is close to you and your husband...whoever that may be. A friend, coworker, neighbor. They would know your baby well and you would know them!
My husband and I go out together once, sometimes twice a week. We like to stay up late together most nights and just talk. That's my favorite ';date';. =D
Good luck!
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